Interestingly, this is not as uncommon as one might think. Many of my clients in Central Flordia struggle with this transition and wonder why. I believe using the old adage of “you are what you eat” can conversely be restated to say “you live what you know”. As much as we may desire to be different from our parental units, it is not uncommon to adopt the same belief systems and behavior patterns at the same time our parents were modeling them. As an example you may have bristled at your mother’s attempts to control you as a youngster through guilt, and now you’re getting feedback via your children that ”you are just like grandma!” This can be a difficult thing to hear. Sometimes just a few meetings with a professional can help you identify unwanted mom-like-behaviors that need minor tweaking, and hopefully not major surgery. The fact that some of my clients even took the time to address this with me speaks volumes about their determination to break the cycle of just-like-mom.
If you have any questios regarding this topic or any subject, please feel free to contact me at Heathrow Counseling Center at 407-956-5773. We are located in Lake Mary Florida, just north of Orlando.
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Jacqui Williams, M. S.
